How to Be Approachable to the Man You Want
Written by New York Socials
During my experience as a New York matchmaker, many beautiful women have complained to me that men do not approach them. With the occasional exception of a brave drunk in a local pub who cannot even pronounce his own name, men will look at a beautiful woman then look away never to come close. But surprisingly, many women don’t show a man they are interested because they don’t want them to think they want to pick them up. Newsflash, ladies: guys don’t mind being picked up. Many of them like it and even wait for it!
While running New York Socials, a high end dating service, I’ve found that there are many reasons men do not approach beautiful women. Most of them have to do with insecurity. In his mind, if a guy approaches a woman who is a six or a seven, he has a great shot of getting a date with her. However, approaching a 10 will end not only in rejection but also utter humiliation as she will be indignant at the very thought of him even talking to her: how dare he, a simple seven approach a perfect 10? Yes, ladies, even great looking guys have insecurities. Those insecurities cannot be “willed away.” So stop thinking about it. Do something. Here are a few steps to help you become more approachable to men:
Appropriate Eye Contact Goes a Long Way
When people get nervous, they tend to avoid direct eye contact. However, avoiding eye contact also shows disinterest and aloofness. On the other hand, long hard stare can seem not only impolite, but also arrogant and insulting. Learn to flirt with your eyes: catch his eye and look directly at him for about three seconds. Then look away and smile. After a few minutes try the same again. This flirtatious eye contact sends a clear message of interest.
Give a Real Smile
Smiling is hands down the best signal of not only interest but also approachability. You may wish to practice smiling in front of a mirror to ensure your smile looks natural and inviting. There is nothing worse than a fake smile that clearly says you are merely going through the motions. Learn to smile with your eyes. Unless you hear a tragic story, which is an exception, do not drop your smile. It is your most inviting attribute!
Practice the tips above to be more approachable to men. If you need additional guidance on dating, contact New York Socials.
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